How to Have a Stress-Free Divorce
In reality, not all relationships have a happy ending and it is completely normal. It happens even to the best couples who may seem very happy but end up wanting to separate and get a divorce. When couples divorce it is usually due to irreconcilable differences and constant misunderstandings without reaching compromises and solutions. It can be a really stressful time in any person’s life, most especially if the separation and divorce ends on a very sour note for each spouse. With very high emotions that can be brought in through the whole process of divorce, going through it may be very stressful and problematic. When this happens, each spouse may just end up in the same stressful scenarios that each are trying to avoid and get rid of through divorce. This should not be the case. Going through a divorce should already be easy and stress-free because you are escaping a bad relationship, the process does not need to be another bad place for you to be in. This is when divorce mediation comes into play.
How Mediation is Better During a Divorce
When a couple go through a divorce, typically, each spouse would hire solicitors to represent them throughout the whole process. This most especially holds true for couples who can not a reach a compromise in terms of agreements with custody, financial support, claims and the likes. With mediation however, you would only need one mediator to talk to you together with your (ex)-spouse in order to reach agreements throughout the whole process of divorce. This means that getting a mediator would actually cost each spouse less than having to hire solicitors. Not only that, but scheduling would also be a whole lot easier because there would be less people to consider. Not only that, but a mediator remains unbiased to any spouse, so each would get equal ground and agreements reached would be beneficial for both parties.
Get Answers to All of Your Uncertainties
When you are going through a divorce, not only will you be very stressed and upset, but you would also be anxious most especially because of a lot of uncertainties you may have with regards to the future –and your children’s future, if you have any. Going through a divorce would not always mean that you would get answers to your uncertainties, especially if it is a messy one. But if you have a mediator between spouses, you would be able to easily reach a compromise and know who will be responsible in looking after your children when you get separated, how will the visitation be scheduled, who will get to stay in your family home, or who will get financial support and financially support your children. With a mediator present in the decision-making, you would be able to reach effective compromises for a better future for everyone.
Peaceful Agreements with Children as The Top Priority
When you have solicitors, your interests will be each of your solicitor’s priorities. They would always fight for what is beneficial for the spouse they are representing. However, if you opt to hire a mediator instead, your children will be the top priority when reaching for compromises and agreements. Not only that, there could also be lesser arguments because someone will stand as a moderator when disagreements would arise. It would generally be more peaceful than having two solicitor’s face-off with each other. You could also say anything and everything you would like to in front of a mediator because it would be guaranteed to be kept in confidence between you, your soon-to-be ex-spouse, and the mediator.
Beneficial for Both Parties
Most likely, if each spouse would opt to process the divorce through a solicitor, there would be instances wherein a spouse would be at a disadvantage at the end of it all. This would not happen if you go through the divorce with a divorce mediator. It would be in the best interest of the mediator to reach for a settlement wherein both spouses would be at a win-win situation. Not only that, but it is most important to give your children an easy time when going through with the divorce. They would be the priority in terms of reach agreements and settlements so that they are ensured to be taken care of whatever happens, even if the spouses opt to separate from each other. An essential settlement to ensure that this would happen is defining the financial support the spouse and children will have and from which spouse will it come from. Of course, this financial support is defined be terms so that the spouse giving it would not be put at a disadvantage.
